IS DIVORCE MEDIATION?
Divorce Mediation is a step by step process through which divorcing
couples arrive at an agreement which is acceptable to both of them
through the assistance of a trained, impartial divorce mediator.
My role as a divorce mediator is to help divorcing couples make practical,
informed decisions to resolve the issues before them. I act NOT as
an attorney, but as a neutral intermediary with the interests of both
parties at the forefront of the mediation.
My goal is to assist the parties in reaching their own decisions about
their family and their future. I help my clients through the transformation
of their relationship in the most positive manner possible. I create
a safe and informal environment for the negotiations and I strongly
encourage respect and open communication throughout the mediation
HOW DOES DIVORCE MEDIATION WORK?
I first meet with the clients to examine their situation in terms of
their needs and interests. I educate clients regarding the required
legal divorce procedures. I give clients access to all resources they
may need to educate themselves regarding the various issues. Relevant
information is gathered which may include budgets, business records,
tax returns, property valuations and, of course, the needs of the children.
Full disclosure of financial assets and debts is required by law.
Initial divorce documents are prepared and submitted to the court
at the clients' direction with clients representing themselves in “pro
per.” As a Licensed Document Assistant (“LDA”),
I can prepare the legal documentation for the clients at their
instruction, or refer the clients to an outside L.D.A. for such
Once the issues are identified and prioritized by the clients, I assist
in resolving the various potential conflicts involving custody, parenting
arrangements, child and spousal support, and property and debt division.
After each mediation session, the clients will receive a letter from
me outlining the temporary agreements reached, the issues still to
be discussed and any paperwork which may still be needed. This provides
a clear record of the understandings and agreements between the parties
so that no miscommunications about what took place can occur.
During the mediation process, the clients may be given referrals to
therapists, attorneys, financial advisors or other professionals when
needed. Settlement options are developed and discussed with clients,
allowing each of them to meet their goals fairly.
Before agreement to a final settlement, I require that clients
meet with a “mediation friendly” attorney of their
choice to advise them of their legal rights and review the proposed
By getting this independent legal advice, the clients can make
informed and educated decisions.
Once an agreement is finalized, it is incorporated into the final judgment
which is then submitted to the Court without the clients ever having
to appear in person.
WHAT ARE THE BENEFITS?
While the primary goal of divorce mediation is to complete a divorce,
it may also benefit the parties as follows:
- Allows you to control the outcome.
less costly than litigation.
- Promotes communication and cooperation.
- Benefits children by
- Is confidential, thus avoiding public disclosure
of personal information.
- All required legal documents are prepared
for you at your direction and submitted to the court by the
- No personal court appearances are necessary.
- Referrals to attorneys,
therapists, financial & tax advisors,
and real estate professionals, as needed.
be completed in less time than litigation so you can more
quickly move ahead with your
POST-DIVORCE MEDIATION FOR MODIFICATIONS:
When post-divorce modifications are needed, the clients welcome
having a safe, impartial environment to discuss parenting
and support issues.
Post-Divorce Mediations are conducted in the same
manner as divorce mediations, with full confidentiality.
such as stipulations and orders for modifications
of support or other issues, are prepared for the clients
their instruction and submitted
to the court by the mediator.
ADDITIONAL MEDIATION SERVICES:
Co-Mediation: Co-mediation allows
for a trained therapist to participate when the level of emotional
Mobile Services: When
necessary, mobile services allows for the mediation
to take place in the privacy
Flexible Hours: Divorce
mediation appointments can be made for evenings
and Saturdays to accommodate
Phone: (707) 217-4128
E-Mail: [email protected]